My boyfriend, Paul, is the pet whisperer. My dog, Astro, loves him more than me.
Paul has also recently acquired a pet cat at his house, not really on purpose. She was a stray that had a litter of kittens under his storage shed. She’d hiss at him if he came near or run away if her kittens were safe.
Little by little though, he’s won her over.
Now, she jumps into his lap for some daily love and lets him hold her and pet her.
Cats don’t always trust easily, especially if they’re wild cats. It takes time and patience. Paul started out just by sitting on the back porch and letting her get accustomed to him being there.
He spoke to her softly and stayed pretty still while she got used to him.
Gradually, she’d come out of hiding if he was there and sit across the yard.
Little by little, she’d come closer if he was outside (it helped that he started feeding her). Then, she let him pet her gently while she stood on the ground.
Eventually, she let him hold her.
Now, she loves to be held and gets comfortable on his lap out in the afternoon sun every day.
Give it time with your pet cat. Even domesticated kitties take some time to become your lifelong friend.