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Family Matters: Thumb Sucking

When my best friend’s baby was born a few months ago, she swore two things: that she would never speak to Baby in nauseating, high-pitched ‘baby talk’ nor would she ever let her suck her thumb.


Both of those promises went out the window within minutes of that sweet girl’s birth. She was practically born sucking her thumb, and I think Mama told her “Your little thumby-wumby needs to come out of your mouthy now…”

Best laid plans, right?

Thumb sucking is not the end of the world. I didn’t have to deal with it, because both of my boys used pacifiers, but my sister sucked her thumb. And guess what? She’s a fully functioning adult who graduated with her master’s degree without a thumb in her mouth. There’s hope, I promise.

Babies suck to soothe. If your baby sucks his thumb, you’ve got the built-in convenience of not having to get up 19,002 times a night (not that I counted) to find their pacifier for them.

Now, too much thumb sucking can cause alignment problems with teeth, but experts say MOST kids stop by around age 4. And if they haven’t, rest assured a preschool or kindergarten classmate will help things along by point out that sucking your thumb is for babies.

TIP- 0 to 6 Months: Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Babies thrive off of repetition. “Mixing things up” isn’t what your infant wants. Instead, it’s perfectly ok if you read “Goodnight, Moon” to them every evening for the first years of life. They love it. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.

Family Matters: Kids and Summer

I have a rule in my house: If I hear the words “I’m bored” during the summer, my boys, ages 9 and 11, automatically incur SOMETHING TO DO.

And frankly, ‘something to do’ is often something they don’t want to do, like clean the bathroom or dust the baseboards (a ‘chore’ my mother loved to have us do…we had the cleanest baseboards in Richmond, Va.).

The point here is not to punish your kids all summer. The point is to encourage them to find other things to do to occupy their time. I catch myself saying, “When I was a kid…” but let’s be honest, times aren’t the same as when I was a child. We would head outside in the morning and not go home until dark. And that was just fine. Well if I didn’t know where MY kids were during the day, I’d panic with a capital ‘P’. In this day and age, we can’t just send our kids outside unsupervised in most cases.

But there are things they can do. Scavenger hunts in the back yard. Tried-and-true favorites like sidewalk chalk (it works really well on wooden fences, too) and bubbles. Plant a garden with your kids. Checking on it and pulling weeds is something they can do every day. Summer reading challenges: do them. Visit your local library. Go on an adventure every week. Don’t tell your kids where you’re going and give them clues so they can try to guess. Make it a challenge to go on an adventure that is completely free. Let them plan an adventure. Camp in the yard. Eat as many meals outside as possible. Give your kids a project – let them choose what to study.

Summertime, or anytime, isn’t a time to be “bored.” There’s so much do to and discover no matter where you live.

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Family Matters: Chores

The other night I asked my 11-year-old daughter Grace if she wanted to wash dishes or cook dinner. I really didn’t want her to choose cooking dinner because I knew I could do it faster and get it over with sooner, and besides, I did not want to do the dishes! But she chose cooking dinner, so I let her go for it.

I gave her the choice between two meals I knew she could handle, tacos or Hamburger Helper. She chose her favorite, Hamburger Helper. I gave her the Hamburger Helper box, told her to read the instructions and stayed close by in the kitchen in case she needed my help. She was able to brown the meat, add the sauce, milk, water and noodles and let it simmer all without my help.

After giving thanks for our dinner, Grace proudly announced that she had prepared the dinner all by herself. She was very proud of herself that night and, even being the picky eater that she is, ate everything on her plate!

Kids are often more willing to eat foods they have prepared, and the process encourages communication and family togetherness. It all starts in the kitchen. Whether that means the young ones wash the greens or older siblings help with some of the more involved recipes, a little cooking camaraderie goes a long way. There are many easy tasks that kids can do in the kitchen to help you out:

• Washing fruits and vegetables
• Measuring using a measuring cup
• Pouring liquids
• Stirring with a spoon
• Cracking eggs (Kids love this one!)
• Setting the table
• Cleaning up after dinner

Kids have so much fun in the kitchen – so don’t keep them out. Involve your kids with specific kitchen jobs and watch their culinary interest and ability soar. I think next week we’ll have “Taco Tuesday,” and I’ll let Grace be the chef!

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Family Matters: Middle School

I woke up one day last week and, seemingly overnight, was staring straight into the strange face of Middle School.

How did my BABY, my firstborn, end up ready to go to middle school?

It’s not possible.

After all, he was just born yesterday – or the day before – or ELEVEN years ago.

How did that happen?

The thought of middle school has been a scary one for us. There are lots of good middle schools in our area; the scary part was finding a good one for our son.

Curt has autism. Yes, he’s high-functioning, but still, the thought of navigating the social mores of middle school has been scary.

Every parent of a middle school student faces this. Every. Single. One. Whether your child has special needs or not. Will he make friends? Will he be able to work his locker combination? Will he be able to stand up to the inevitable bullies or mean kids? Will he do well academically? Will he be happy?

And that’s the bottom line, really. Will he be happy?

He’s going to a great school, a small school. Where I don’t worry as much about lockers and getting lost in the hallways. He’ll still face mean kids. He’ll still face the rigors of academia. But as a parent, whatever I can do to reduce the other, outside factors, I’ll fight to do. And I feel good about him going to this middle school. I’ve prayed about it. I’ve given it to God’s hands.

Now, when I look into the face of Middle School, he’s not so scary after all.

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Family Matters: Collage of Times Past

As I near the high school graduation of yet another child, my family and I have begun gathering items to celebrate this special occasion. We pull out our large plastic containers of family photos from birth to present and begin the process. As the family sits on the living room floor and thumbs through the photos one by one, what memories it brings back. First we laugh, then I cry, then we laugh (rolling on the floor), I cry again and it goes on for days.  My family finally told me if I did not stop with the tears, I was not going to be allowed to look at any more photos!

In my defense, I am the mother, and the photos bring back so many happy and sad times of our life together as a family. The pictures of my children when they were young and photos with them doing silly things makes me laugh, but also brings tears for how they have grown into beautiful young ladies, not babies anymore. Seeing photos of loved ones we lost floods my heart with sadness, as they will miss this special time of graduation. How quickly time passes us by and so many times we fail to slow down and savor the memories as they are happening.

I will use the photos we gather to make a photo collage slide show that we will share with extended family and friends after graduation as we celebrate her life. What a great thing she will then have to share with her kids one day. Our future grandchildren will be able to see their mother as a child up through graduation and see the joy that she has brought us as her parents.

Our life is but a collage of events that make up who we are as an individual. Every moment from the time we are born, our accomplishments, our failures, each and every life decision we make determines who we become. Remember to take pictures and capture moments that define your family. Though life is not perfect, our children are a blessing sent from God, and we should give thanks daily for what they bring to our life.

Take time with your kids to sit and go through family photos; it is a great way to bring you together for a special time of laughter…and tears. You will be amazed at the feeling you will have sharing so many memories together. Count your blessings daily and give thanks for the time you have to share with your family.

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Family Matters: Pet Boarding

It was so hard when I’d go out of town on vacation for an extended period of time. I wanted someone to take care of my pets as I would, but I hated to ask someone to spend all that time.

So a pet boarding kennel is a great option, especially when you have one you know and can trust.

With vacation season arriving,  it’s important to have good care for your pets while you’re gone.

Here are a few things to look for in a potential boarding situation, according to the Humane Society of the United States:

·      Does the facility look and smell clean?
·      Is there sufficient ventilation and light?
·      Is a comfortable temperature maintained?
·      Does the staff seem knowledgeable and caring?
·      Are pets required to be current on their vaccinations, including the vaccine for canine kennel cough (Bordetella)? (Such a requirement helps protect your animal and others.)
·      Does each dog have his own adequately sized indoor-outdoor run or an indoor run and a schedule for exercise?
·      Are outdoor runs and exercise areas protected from wind, rain, and snow?
·      Are resting boards and bedding provided to allow dogs to rest off the concrete floor?
·      Are cats housed away from dogs?
·      Is there enough space for cats to move around comfortably?
·      Is there enough space between the litter box and food bowls?
·      How often are pets fed?
·      Can the owner bring a pet’s special food?
·      What veterinary services are available?
·      Are other services available such as grooming, training, bathing?
·      How are rates calculated?

If you’re satisfied the facility meets these requirements, by all means, book your pet into a pleasurable stay while you’re taking your own time off!

Family Matters: I Did it All By Myself – No- Bake Cookies

No- Bake CookiesBuilding a strong foundation of skills early in your child’s life is the perfect opportunity to spend quality time and create unforgettable memories with your little ones. Turn your kitchen into a fun educational tool that your kids are sure not to forget – especially the yummy treats made with their own hands!

No-bake cookies are the perfect way to introduce your little ones to the basics of any recipe and even help develop life skills.

Planning, organization, time management and responsibility are all among a lengthy list of traits that correlate between executing a recipe and day-to-day tasks. Letting your children lend you a hand in the kitchen is a wonderful opportunity for them to learn and master a new skill. This boosts self-esteem, self-confidence and also gets the creative juices flowing.

The benefits of getting your kids involved in the kitchen are endless. This is a great way to accomplish a task and let your kids pave their way to some edible accolades!

You, as a parent, can easily give your kids the champion-like feeling of accomplishment that may serve as a launching pad to developing their hunger for success – not to mention you and your loved ones get to enjoy a tasty treat together.

Invite your kids into the kitchen and introduce them to skills they will use for the rest of their lives!

No- Bake Cookies

1 cup Food Club Creamy Peanut Butter
1 cup Food Club Confectioners’ Sugar
1/2 cup mini chocolate chips
2 Tbsp butter softened at room temperature
1 cup coconut flakes

In a medium mixing bowl combine peanut butter, confectioners’ sugar, chocolate chips and butter; mix well.

Take a teaspoon of batter and roll into a small ball. Continue making balls with the remaining batter.

Roll each ball in coconut. Chill in refrigerator.

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Family Matters: Speech

There’s a wide range of speech development in children that is considered typical, but there are also milestones a child should hit.

When my older son was 18 months old, I realized he didn’t babble. He made sounds, but his language development wasn’t organized. Turns out, this was an early sign of my son’s autism. But not all language delays are the sign of something serious. If your child isn’t hitting his milestones, just ask your pediatrician – he should be able to steer you in the right direction.

12 to 15 Months

Your toddler should have a wide range of speech sounds in their babbling (like p, b, m, d or n). They begin to imitate and approximate sounds and words modeled by family members, and typically say one or more words (not including “mama” and “dada”) spontaneously. Your toddler also should be able to understand and follow simple one-step directions.

18 to 24 Months

The average toddler vocabulary is about 20 words by 18 months and 50 words at 24 months. By age 2, they should start combining words into two-word simple sentences. They should also be able to identify common objects, common pictured objects and body parts.

2 to 3 Years

Your toddler’s speech should explode during this year. Their vocabulary will increase exponentially and their sentences should be multi-worded and show the beginnings of complexity. They should also understand more; for example, commands with multiple steps like, “Please put the book on the table and come here.” They should begin to identify colors and comprehend descriptive concepts (big versus little, for example).


Family Matters: Separation Anxiety

My older son Curt was a toddler when his baby brother was born. Curt was a highly portable child, going with the flow and running around with me with very little fuss or muss. He could run errands with me or easily be dropped off at the gym or church nurseries.

When Luke was old enough to go to the gym nursery so I could try to workout, around the time he was 7 months old, I was in for a shock.

He screamed. And screamed. And screamed. I couldn’t leave him. We finally got to the point where I’d drop him off and catapult up the gym steps to try to get any kind of workout in before the nursery paged me to come get my inconsolable child. After a few times, I realized that sprinting up the stairs was going to be the extent of my workout for a while.

Separation anxiety is quite common between 7 and 12 months of age, and can be even longer if baby has never been away from you.

To help ease separation anxiety, visit the place you’re going to leave your child the day before you need to drop him off. Stay and play with your baby. Leave together. When you come back, make sure the caregiver knows your expectations on how long it is acceptable to let your baby cry. Then, hand your baby over to the caregiver, give him a kiss and leave. Immediately. If he cries, the caregiver should page you/call you/come get you at the predetermined time interval, whether two minutes or 10 minutes feels right to you. After the routine is established, it should get easier. I used to work in a church nursery, and the worst thing I saw parents do was come back to “check.” If the caregiver hasn’t contacted you, chances are baby is fine. Peeking in and risking baby glimpsing you could set him off all over again – back to square one. And, if the experience is too traumatic for the both of you; don’t do it. Try again in a few weeks or months.


TIP: Babies love to play in boxes. Get an old shoebox, with lid, and fill it with a variety of small items; toys, little stuffed animals, plastic shapes, etc.  Be sure to vary the sizes, colors and textures. Give baby the box and show him out to take the lid off. Let him play with the box before dumping out the objects inside.

Family Matters: Growth and Development

Two months ago baby S was born to one of my best friends. I’m not a blood relative, but I love that little girl like I love her mama.

I was babysitting last week and marveled at how a baby changes so much in the first eight weeks. She’s gone from sleeping 22 hours a day to regularly being alert. Her sleep has organized into ‘naps’ during the day and long stretches of sleep at night. She holds her head up all by herself. She throws her chunky little leg over in what looks like an attempt to roll. Her infant reflexes have nearly faded away, and, my favorite, she coos and vocalizes with her baby bird voice.

Growth and development during the first six months is a miracle to behold. Treasure every minute.


TIP: Cradle cap, the slight scaling or flaking of the skin on baby’s scalp, shouldn’t require medical treatment. It’ll clear up on its own in a few weeks to months. Meanwhile, you can wash baby’s hair once a day with mild baby shampoo and brush the scalp lightly with a soft brush to loosen the scales.

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