Adding to the list of “I Will Never” is ‘I will never get my elementary school aged child a cell phone’.
Really, what does an elementary school aged child need with a phone? They can’t bring them to school. They’re only going to call me, Dad, 911 or the one other elementary school aged child who has a cell phone. Right.
That one went down in a blaze of glory at Christmas this year.
My older son, who just turned 11 and is in the fifth grade, didn’t even specifically ASK for a phone for Christmas. What he asked for was an iTouch, which does everything an iPhone does, without the telephone capabilities. He wanted it for games, apps and music. Well, an iTouch starts at about $200 and you still have to add it to a data plan. I didn’t really see the point, knowing that his dad and I had agreed he could get a phone the summer before sixth grade anyway. Why buy the iTouch now and a phone six months from now? Especially when said iPhone 4 was FREE with a contract.
So he got the phone and was beyond thrilled. I really thought his eyes were going to roll back in his head in electronic ecstasy.
But he’s in fifth grade. He’s 11 years old. We had to talk about rules.
1. Mom and Dad have the pass-lock code, the iTunes log in and password and access to anything, anywhere on your phone, at any time. If we say “hand it over,” we’d better be able to look at anything we want to look at. Immediately.
2. Having a phone is a privilege, not a right. It goes right back into the box in Mom’s locked office drawer if you abuse this privilege.
3. Never answer a call from a number you do not know. No one accept Mom, Dad and the few family members we entered into your contacts needs to be calling you.
4. Do not give out your phone number to anyone. We can revisit this next year, when social norms shift a bit, but for now, it’s private.
5. Ditto No. 3, but with text messages. And especially do not click on a link on any text that you receive from a strange number.
6. When Mom or Dad calls or texts: answer. Answer immediately. We’re having some issues with this one. He claims he keeps letting the charge run out (I know this is somewhat true). Keep the phone charged and answer it.
7. Do not buy anything off of iTunes without permission. True story, I had a friend whose son racked up almost $300 of iTunes charges before she checked her email to see the iTunes receipts. Oh. Horror. If you want to buy a song, or an app, we’ll negotiate what that app will “cost.”
8. Do not even download a free app without Mom or Dad knowing what it is.
9. Share with your little brother every once and awhile.
10. And if we play against each other in Chess, let Mom win. Just once.